On this Mother’s Day

It's Mother's Day. The debate on the need for 1-day special celebrations passed through my ears. People often say they love their mom throughout the year. So, does a day really make a difference in anyone's life or in their relationships?

A career scientist turned statesman, Dr. A.P.J Abdul Kalam once said,

Birthday- the only day in your life, your mother smiles when you cried.

And we fail to recognize that our birthday is actually the big day for our mother on which she has joyfully risked her life to bring us into this world. Hence, a day is special indeed. If not to us, maybe to the person to whom it is associated with.

While planning for this Mother's Day, a question popped up in my mind- How does a mother feel about being a mother?. Like the most, I always presumed that a mother's love is unconditional. But still, I wanted to know its attributes and then spoke to some mothers I knew on this.

"It is a sacrifice. I sacrifice for my husband too but its mutual with expectations. I don't think I ever expected anything from my angel any time. And why should I? Every time I sacrifice something for her, it only generates infinite holistic love within me. It is the highest form of self-love”, a mother said.

My sister, a mother of twin boys questioned my mom with wonder on how she raised 3 children being a working woman. To which she replied, "When I am tired, complaining and whining, I wonder how my mom did all that for 6 children with way too less cribbing. That gives me a feeling that I can give double the love with half the effort."

A mother inspires a daughter to be a better mother, I learned that day.

Another said,"He(her son) reflects me, my thoughts, tolerance, and actions. It gives me an opportunity every moment with him to better myself. As a mother, I win 100 times and fail 1000, but resilient again tomorrow. I often get tired of parenthood and like to have a me-time". I was surprised to hear me-time considering the unreserved nature of a mother’s love because I never thought about it.

How can we make a person feel special for which she already feels privileged? I felt it is equally important for her to feel blessed for being herself. I decided then to give her often, her me-time she deserves. It’s funny to realize that every other creature in this universe, respects their mom’s me-time. When shared this thought with my brother who is a father of two kids, he wanted to share the same present with his wife too- the me-time.

After all, it is a special day for the entire family to celebrate the existence of such embodiment of love amongst them.